Tired of Living
Not a single day goes by, where I don’t think “I’m so tired of life”. I just feel low, dull and drained all the time. Sometimes I don’t even have the motivation to live.
Here’s the thing – I’m not depressed. I’m a normal, healthy person. But at least once every 3 days I experience signs of depression. Signs such as fatigue, lack of energy, pessimism, feelings of worthlessness and others.
Life as An Empath
Ever since I was a kid, I’ve always felt things too deeply. I was the kind of kid that would rescue ants drowning in water. I would always give away my food to poor kids at school and go hungry myself. I didn’t want anyone to go through suffering, not even animals or insects. I just can’t stand it.
The world today is a crazy place. I think it’s safe to say we live in an era where there’s a lot of large scale suffering going on. Foreign country invasions, mass migrations, wars and displacements, child rape and slavery, factory farming and abuse of livestock animals, climate change, pollution…these are just some of the terrible barbaric things our world is going through, in a time where we are supposed to be the most technologically advanced.
All these things just compound my daily sadness, and make me feel tired of living. When I saw the suffering of others, who probably wanted to die themselves, I felt like dying too.
Empathy can be exhausting! What’s more, studies show that if you are an empathy, you are more at risk for depression.
“I’m tired of life, even though my life is good”
If you are an empath, overly sensitive, a little eccentric and highly creative, the chances of you getting depression is higher. Please do consult a doctor to be properly evaluated so that you can take medication, if necessary.
But for me, my life is actually good. I have a good family, live in a good house, have plenty of food to gorge on, a job and so many other things that I am so, so grateful for. I’m actually GRATEFUL for my life, and how much better it is compared to millions of others. Yet I still feel dull, low and ‘tired of life’. I’m only in my 20’s! It’s too early to be feeling this way!
Take Control of Your Life
Life is too short to feel this way! The first question to ask yourself is, why do you feel this way? There’s a root cause for everything. Every time you catch yourself feeling tired of yourself, instead of lamenting in the feeling, ask yourself why you feel that way and how you can feel a little better. Perhaps you’re just exhausted from work and need a break…it could be something as simple as that.
Personally, I don’t even know exactly why I feel this way. May be I need to go for therapy. But here are the list of actionable points and prompts that I have written down in order for me to cope. I hope they will help you as much as they help me:
- Smile! It can change your mood. Or make you feel at least a little better.
- Be grateful! Look around you and count 10 things that you are grateful for.
- Get some sun! Just 20 minutes of sunshine are said to perk up your mood and boost your immune system.
- Don’t eat junk! Be very mindful of what you put into your body. Caffeine, refined foods and soft drinks can imbalance your health and make you feel dull and lifeless.
- Load up on nutrients! Eat nutrient-rich, live food such as sprouted almonds, green smoothies and fresh fruits to help you feel lively.
- Drink water! There’s a saying that “you are not sick, you are dehydrated!” Please make sure you are well hydrated as dehydration can make you feel slow, sick and unmotivated.
- Move! Being dormant and lacking physical activity can make toxins accumulate in your body. Make it a point to walk, and exercise everyday for 20 minutes. Exercise releases endorphins which physically make you happy!
- Avoid isolation! Being isolated can make you feel lonely and depressed. If you don’t have any supportive friends, at least get a pet. Pets are said to reduce depression and increase longevity.
- Simplify your life! I find that being minimal, organized and living a simple life does wonders to my overall peace of mind. Clutter and complication can make you feel overwhelmed and exasperates anxiety and depression.
- Take it day by day! Sometimes, I take it further and live ‘hour by hour’, just trying to get by as peacefully as I can. Don’t compare yourself to anyone. We are not competing with anyone. Take it easy and don’t stress about anything because stress can suck out your energy. Whatever it is, try your best and leave the rest to fate. What’s the use of worrying about things that are beyond our control.
I know life is tough. When you look around at the world today, you truly can lose hope and feel too tired to live. But hey, the very fact that you were even given the honor of life is a great thing! So make the most of your life. Even if it means just getting through it, day by day, peacefully, without any drama. In my opinion, a peaceful life is a successful life.
Note: Remember if you are feeling suicidal on a daily basis, you need to get help immediately. Inform your family and get in touch with a therapist.
This is a perfect description of my life!
I can’t seem to find motivation or even a purpose to continue living, yet I stop and realize that I am not depressed and cannot bring myself to think of taking my life.
Nobody in this world seems to think or see things as I do. There is way to much corruption in today’s age, it is sickening to be witness to such cruelty, such ignorance, hatred, and brainwashing.
I see all as equal and have a huge amount of love and respect for all animals.
We as people need to understand that we are all one!
We make this plant whole and belong to a part of everything religions separate this
God is very real and the same one no matter what one chooses to call it or worship.
All the greed and money is not worth the life we are rejecting, a life of peace and love.
If the author of this article happens to read this comment please email me??
I can’t stand it when people say take control of your life and start living, or find a reason to live. When you are tired of living you are tired of living. I know people mean well but when someone comes to the end of the road and the road has been to hard there is nothing left only the longing to go to sleep forever. I am at that stage. I don’t want to take my own life as I have not got the courage but I pray to God every night that I do not wake up.
I sorry about that, Marie. I feel the same way, but deep down inside, you have something to live for.
I agree with you, we have to hang in there and stay strong. There is a reason. This site is good for us, it helps us know that we’re not the only people with these feelings of uselessness , we are needed but we have to figure it out, thats the stage in life we are in now. – moses
Maybe you have been too invested. I am exhausted right now. All I can think of is the fact that since childhood, I have been required to completely invest myself in whatever I am doing. Sometimes I wonder what it would feel like to just coast; but, I don’t know how to do that. Some people waste hours and hours and even days and years just not really caring too deeply, and they seem to be just fine. For me, I think that I have been forced to do too much for too long. Finding out how to stop that will be a blessing for me. Right now, I feel exactly as you do. Every single day I ask God to take me home, because I am just so tired. What’s the point anymore–everybody else seem to be the ones who coast and get the blessings. Why do I have to care so much? I think it’s time to let other people do the work. What do you think?
I too have been forced to, as you say, “completely invest myself” in everything and everyone. I wish that I could coast and let others invest in me and things that need to be done, but I cannot. It is simply not within me to do so. I am exhausted. I am frustrated. I am angry that I have to be the one to take the lead, but it is who I am. My husband is one of those who can waste hours and days not even caring about the important or even the simple things, so I am left to care about everything. Because of this, he has no problem with me taking the lead. Vicious cycle this is. Sometimes I wish I could be all alone and isolated.
I feel the same way for a year and I have no support or friends in my life
I am sorry that you feel this way.It is horrible not to have anyone in the world that you can confide in or speak to when things are wrong.
I hope that by now you have a little more peace and are feeling a bit better.
I’m on the same stage, it feels like there’s nothing left for me, I’m really tired. I wish I could go to sleep and not wake up.
i feel the same. i am too scared to take my own life. i love my parents. i think they are the only reasons why i dont want to die yet. i need to take care of them. sometimes i get tired. very tired. tired of everything. tired of my life. sometimes i hope to meet an accident on my way so i can end my life. i have suicidal thoughts from time to time. i have a job. a family. 2 kids. stable financials. but i am not happy with my life. i have so many disappointments.
Well said.
I also feel tired.. with no motivation ..I’m at work and I just wanna go home and sleep..I ask my self sometimes why am I here? People say I shouldn’t complain as I have a job, my house, my car, food, health.. but nothings of the previous fill up my life, my days.. Yes some times life is tough..I’m tired.. I wish I could sleep or jump to a different life.. To feel that I’m important.. usefull.. Wish we all could talk.. support each others.. as sometimes it seems nobody cares.
I understand how that is, even though I’m not working full-time. Every morning I wake up upset that I woke up. I have a house too and get just barely enough money for living. I think the problem we have is the sense of meaninglessness. Sorry I can’t be much of a help here, I suppose it’s because of this depression. Once a long time ago I achieved momentary happiness by changing my thought forms. I absolutely believed that I was the main actor of my own play. Another, completely opposite way could be starting to live for other people instead of self? I don’t know… just rambling here. Maybe I’ll try sleeping again.
I understand you cia and Gerardo, i wasnt like this before., now i just want to sleep. I dont have suicidal tendencies, i have a lot to live for. I just dont have the motivation i used to have. Ill try to make it to the gym, la fitness, I’ll hang out at the pool and excercise, it does help to be around others. Before i retired 3 years ago at 56, i travelled the world and interacted with a lot of people. I had a purpose in life now nothing. Im financially stable, i have everything i need, i just dont have the energy anymore to do the things i liked to do. Ill be going on a road trip in a couple of weeks to see if i can shake this off me., if i can find these post then i’ll update here on any improvements. Take care and lets live strong.. – moses
Gerardo, CIA, My2cents, I agree with you all, this is the first time I’ve ever ever commented on any site . Only because this affected me too much. How was your road trip My2Cents???? Did it give you any meaning? CIA did you find a religious group? I’m catholic and honestly prayer is the only thing that keeps me going .. it’s honestly hard some days, I’m the type of person that tries to make everyone happy and in the end there still not happy and neither am I. People say I should worry about myself and make myself happy but I can’t knowing that others aren’t. Idk I’m weird. I am at a job I hate, I finished school, have my bachelors, at a great company but sucky position, no one else will hire me and I have no clue it’s frustrating. The only time I see to be really happy is when I am traveling with my BF, idk I like the feeling of being somewhere else… idk… it’s good to have support systems like this, although we are all different ages, genders, irs crazy how we can all feel the same…
I honestly don’t even know how old this post is so I hope you all reply and are doing well or better, let me know if you are better and what you did to get better as I want to too. Blessings And prayers – signed hopeful
Hi there, I can totally relate myself to what you said and as I read the comments there are so many people who wants to be your friend I guess. I am very sensitive person too. When I drive down the road, I feel terrible whenever I hit a butterfly I do feel the same compassion towards our fellow living things, well I’m scared of some of them, as they would eat me alive or hurt me bad anyways it’s nice to find some equally sensitive people. So let’s stay friends. Mail me at: [email protected]
I feel like this. I also feel I’m not belonging to any group. I can’t hang around with religious people, because I don’t believe in their stuff. I also can’t stand atheists, because they seem just as ignorant, and often vulgar. I can’t work anything but my own art, because nothing else interests me. When I was young, I was a “metal head” and metal music culture was the thing I was part of. Now, the metal heads mostly feel like overgrown babies. I would like to become a part of some spiritual, open-minded group of people with the intention of making the world a better place, but I don’t know where to start. There are no groups like that anywhere I know, in real life and not the internet.
Hi Cia, i started reading about Agashan philosophy , very interesting religous group. They used to meet in los angeles but after richard the medium passed away it kind of split up. When i was young i went to a seminar of his with my uncle,. I’ve bought several books on Agasha . You’ll probably enjoy reading the books. – moses
Im going to follow the 10 steps mentioned above. I too dont have the motivation and ambition to do things like before. I sleep a lot. Im healthy. I live alone, all my childhood friends are dead or in jail. Im retired and recieve a good pension, I’m still young, 59. I’ll be taking a road trip in a couple of weeks alone, wish i had someone to share the sights but I’ll do the best i can. I like the 10 steps especially the step about getting sun #3 and #9 and i need to follow #8. I’ll give an update when i get back. Wish me luck…
Depression is for real and it is important to take help of counselors and doctors if someone has been depressed for too long. Because when someone is depressed, they seldom understand any tips and techniques to stay out of depression. It is important to take professional help to treat depression.
https://www.medylife.com/delhi/doctors/psychiatrist
i dont know what i am doing in life
i want a direction in which i can create my life
i dont have dreams
i dont have goals
i have nothing
I am 64and have been overwhelmed by the sufferings of others my whole life, really! My first memory of this was when I was 5and watching a TV show about the plight of starving children in Ethiopia.
I now also live with severe chronic pain. I still work full time and I make it day by day.
But I just want to fall asleep and not wake up.
I am “blessed with 2 daughters, 2 stepchildren, 14 grandchildren and 2 great grandchildren. But busy life being what it is I rarely get to see them and when they struggle and suffer I am overwhelmed with a sense of helplessness.
I am glad for every year older because I am that much closer to the end.
Finally, I just found something to help me with my life. Words can’t explain how thankful I’m for this article and to the Author. I’ve been asking this question in my life for a past couple of years. I feel so low and lifeless. And my love life was a complete tragedy. I have no friends who could help me or understand my situation.
Now I got my new job and trying to go with the flow. Even at times, I feel that my life is incomplete. Something is missing in my life. So I’m in the goal of searching for my life/to fulfill my life.
And I absolutely agree with your point on pets. Pets are the best companion and will help you with your mood swings or depression or anxiety whatever it is. I’m thinking about adopting at least 5 dogs. But not sure when I can possibly do it.
Thanks a lot for this article, and please write more about this topic and about Empaths.
You wrote everything my mind couldn’t put to words. im 19yr old college student and too empathetic for today’s generation. I love to give but the problem is that people begin to think i’m innocent and misuse it. I really don’t fit in with people well, i’m religious but I can’t find someone who looks at the world the same way as me.
Im actively trying to sensitize people about the recent injustice and wars around the world but people seem to care less. I myself feel tired as im still young and under my parents that i can’t help anyone much.
I have a burning desire and passion for business, but looks like i have to keep it within me for at least the next 2 years until im graduated to begin.. and that sucks…
I get tired at the thought of all this, that i might not be able to give and do good to any one anyways.. so why don’t I just sleep put my restless mind to rest and never wake up and just feel serene forever. I’m just so tired and bored of my absolutely boring life. though im grateful for everything i have . I often feel nostalgic of my childhood days,i feel like reliving them in a better manner.